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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I just love the lack of self-awareness when people who insisted upon having a child-free wedding themselves then kvetch about such absurdity once they have children of their own.

FTR, we hade upwards of 20 kids at our wedding. Why? Because weddings should be a celebration with family and friends, and we realized most parents can’t participate if they are forced to find alternative plans for their kids.

I’m 50 now, and I detest black tie weddings or any event where the alleged hosts attempt to dictate attire; and I detest child free weddings (where everyone spends months hearing about how unreasonable the hosts are for not letting cousin Amanda bring the baby she is nursing or whatever).

[b]To the pp in the wedding along with her husband and kids who are flower girls yet not invited to the party - I can’t believe you agreed to this.[/b] I would have said our family is happy to celebrate with you and shoulder the significant financial aspects of travel, special outfits, etc. but I hope you understand that all of us need to attend as we can’t easily find care for the kids.” A normal host would have invited the other grandparents to attend so they could help with the kids and duck out early to put them to bed.[/quote]

I didn’t have such an egregious situation but I did have kids in the wedding party of a child free wedding and found it awkward.  I would say that when we were to be in the wedding party and agreed I had no idea the wedding would be child free and no one provided a schedule or anything.  It was only months later that we actually saw on the real invitation that it was no kids please.  And then even later that they sent us the schedule (and I privately went “oh good lord pictures are scheduled right in the middle of naptime and ceremony is RIGHT when we usually eat dinner how can I start shift schedules so my children aren’t melting down in every memory everyone has of this event”).  If I had wanted to bow out there wasn’t a time it would really have felt possible.  I feel for PP — she’s been placed in an impossible situation.[/quote]

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