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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I do not understand how me having another child will impact my relationship with my current kids. [b]Nothing will change.[/b] From the start I told my girlfriend that my kids are very important to me. I have had to cancel dates with her and I also do not see her as much as I want to because i value my time with my kids. The assumption that I will just give up on them is strange to me. I love my children.[/quote]

This is magical thinking. It is normal early in a relationship, but it's not sustainable and it's not helping you make good choices.

Think about your day-to-day life when your kids are with you. When do you wake up? What do they do? What activities do they have? How does dinner go? How does bedtime go? What do the weekends look like? Do they invite friends over? Do you take them to soccer practice? Swim team? Do you go downtown and hit a museum?

Now add an infant/toddler/preschooler to that routine. What does it look like now? What do meals look like? Can you still coach their soccer team with a toddler on the sidelines? Can you take that trip to Calgary to see the rodeo that you always promised them you would all do when they were bigger? Can they still have friends over, or are you worried they will wake up the baby?

I believe you are smart enough to do the math here, but the idea that nothing would change is just silly.

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I am not OP. But there are women in the same exact scenario as OP. Can those women do everything you have asked?[/quote]

Very few women are looking to start a new family in their 50s. I've never seen that in all of my time on this site, or in my actual life. Nor would a woman ever say that "nothing would change" if they had a baby when their other kids were already teens. I literally cannot imagine a woman being that clueless. [/quote]

It’s not because they don’t want to. It’s because the biological door has closed. I know plenty of women in their 50s who would do it if they were still fertile. plenty. Including myself.

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So a woman OP's age would be willing to have more kids if she could.[/quote]

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