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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m a mid age millennial born in 1990. I went to an Ivy with very high achieving woman and these are the trends I’m noticing as we start to become parents

1. Very few stay at home moms despite high earner spouses. I’m surprised by this because many of my friends assumed they’d stay home but I’m noticing most work full time in top but flexible jobs. This makes this combined incomes super high (dual doctors, big law/surgeon, finance/ engineers). I’m sure this will put SAHM mom / single earner families at a disadvantage going forward

2. More kids. Not sure if this is a status symbol or not but lots of 3 kids back to back  (again while working big jobs)

3. Traveling alot despite 1 &2

4. Need to post about how amazing their family life is (with obligatory sentence about how sometimes it’s hard)

Anything I’m missing?[/quote]

This is on point. 1989 millennial here, 3 kids, both parents working but we have some flexibility/sometimes wfh and have a nanny. I don’t personally post to sm but I’m definitely on instagram for the reels and I know the people you are talking about (what’s with the over the top birthday/holiday/anniversary essays as captions???)

I’ll add, still a big “girls trip” culture with women, especially, planning big trips with friends. [/quote]

1987 millennial with three kids. Ivy undergrad, Ivy grad school and spouse who also want to an Ivy. HHI is over $900K. He was raised by high achieving, wealthy parents and I was not so a lot of what he takes for granted I don't. We live just outside NYC in the hedge fund capital of the US. My take on what the OP wrote:

1. This is mixed in my area. There are many hedge fund and finance moms as well as partners at law firms. What I find is that the SAHM are married to very high earners and their careers were never going to be that great even if they went to a great school undergrad. These moms were in PR, education, boutique search firms, etc. It's not that they are not educated but that they were not in high-earning careers to begin with... but there are also notable exceptions. I know a mom who went to Princeton and was a VP at an investment bank at a young age before leaving to be a SAHM. She's from the south and I think that may have something to do with it.

2. Yes. Three kids is a total status symbol and the norm around here if you are wealthy and high achieving. It's like 'look at how many balls I can juggle.'

3. Lots of travel. Summers in the Hamptons, Nantucket, KPT, etc. and now getting into some overseas travel.

4. Not as much posting as you would think. Posting a lot on social media looks really desperate. Not posting shows a level of contentment that is enviable. [/quote]

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