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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I guess I am the only one who things this is NBD.

My parents both died suddenly and unexpectedly within months of eachother.  My sister and I were left to clean out 40+ years of worldly possessions.  We kept what we wanted, donated some and tossed some. It took a couple weeks but we weren't overly burdened by this. It felt like we were able to honor our parents by taking care of this for them.[/quote]no, you are not the only one [/quote]

I think the people who get upset are those who also have difficulty disposing of items.

So if their parents don't do the hard sorting job, making sure that items get sent to appropriate caretakers who will love and cherish the cut glass, the real wood furniture, their china that no one wants, all the books... then the children need to do it and they resent it because they can't just throw it all away. They feel they need to respect the objects and find them a good home.[/quote]

Agree.  Because part of being UMC is being trained to appreciate "the finer things".  For those who don't antique or eBay, it is a rude shock to find out that culture has changed and that these supposedly valuable things aren't wanted by anyone at any price.

It is somewhat shocking to me that decent pianos, oriental rugs, and fine china sets are nearly valueless.  Especially considering the work that went into making them and their durability.  But this is just the case....people want their houses to look different from what Pre-Boomers and Boomers liked from 1930s-1980s.  As our society has gotten wealthier and more modern, we no longer aspire to have our house interiors look like 18th-19th Century European nobility and Colonial American well-to-do living spaces.  Also the Victorian-inspired cluttery eclectic knicknack look is out because it no longer signifies wealth or travels to possess all those objects.  [/quote]

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