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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Again, it is the women fighting amongst themselves about the better "choice" instead of coming together and advocating for more options, better flexibility, better leave; Currently, what "choice" one makes is an individual trying to the best in their circumstances, instead of insulting each other, wont it be better to band together and demand changes in this man-centric work environment? [/quote]

Except better flexibility and leave often means all women must work. Go spend some time in a Scandinavian country. Women are essentially the same as men. To truly have the option to not work it means men must have it too. [/quote]

The reason Scandinavian countries have nice things (such as one year + combined maternity/paternity leave) is not because “women are essentially the same as men” - it’s because they’re all mature adults who are willing to pay lots of money in taxes in order to fund those types of programs.  We will never have that here in America, regardless of how many women are in the workforce or how many men stay at home, because we are (for the most part) a nation of fundamentally selfish people who can’t think even a year into the future, let alone decades.[/quote]

It's cultural too though. You have high taxes in Italy, for example, but still, a lot of women don't work. It's quite a patriarchal society.

In Sweden, 80% of women from ages 20-84 work, compared to 53% in Italy...

https://ec.europa.eu/eurostat/web/products-eurostat-news/-/EDN-20200306-1
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Sure, but the funny thing about bringing that up on this thread is that the OP *wants* to go back to work, and of course this has brought out some working women explaining why they’d be reluctant to hire a woman who has ever been a SAHM.  (The question of whether OP’s initial phrasing was offensive/silly/misunderstood aside, of course.)

It’s not about working or not working here, as far as I can tell.  It seems to be about working or not working according to someone else’s approved timeline.

(e.g. let’s say we both plan to have 40 years in the working world.  You finish grad school, start working at 24, work straight through until retirement at 64.  I finish undergrad, start working at 22, stay home with kids from 32-42, then want to go back to work and retire at 72.  Why is this SUCH a problem for so many people?  Why does it have to be all or nothing?)[/quote]

I think it's defensive (whether anyone wants to admit it or not)[/quote]

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