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[quote=Anonymous][quote]I’ve been doing initial consults for weeks. I think I’ve settled on a family law attorney. I just wanted to gather some more baseline info here.[/quote]

OP, you may do better financially staying married rather than divorcing. You need to run numbers with a lawyer and financial planner. "Here" is not the place to be getting info to base your decisions. You need to factor a number of things, SS being an important one, if he dies soon or lives for years. Base your decision on data rather than vibes or a desire to "cut off" the current situation for emotional reasons. How has the lawyer said his debt impacts you, while married? Divorced? That is also very important.

What do you think is keeping you from actively applying for jobs right now so you can start in August? Do you have insight into that? Anyone from Al Anon or ACoA can tell you they tend to be "reactors not actors" but you need to snap out of the fog and also not overcompensate and behave impulsively. Divorce may not be the best option at all, at least before you are established in a career again. If he is going to die soon, may be far better to be married, talk to a lawyer and financial planner. But is he going to die soon?

What do his doctors say right now? Prognosis? Discharge date? Alcohol inpatient treatment? Bipolar? Anyone in his family mentally ill? Bipolar and alcoholism are VERY common together, rehab will not work until any underlying mood/impulsivity disorder is treated. It's key. His impulsivity and spending are classic bipolar patterns. The hospital can probably do a psych eval and is a great place to try meds since they can test to see how his liver does with them.

I figured he traveled and may be in sales. Also common for this personality type. How is he being paid right now?[/quote]

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