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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is it bad form for a lily-white American woman who marries a man with an obviously Latino/Asian/Middle Eastern-sounding name to change to her husband's name or should she keep her own (anglo-American) surname? Of course some women today prefer keeping their maiden names anyway.

I don't know why, but something just rubs me as cultural appropriation or faking diversity when someone like Larla Jones gets married and becomes Larla Rodriguez, Larla Zhang, or Larla Al-Habib. It's like pretending not to be white. [/quote]

What if a Asian, arab, or Latina marries a white guy... should they take his last name ???
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This. It should swing both ways.

My mother is Hispanic. She married my Anglo dad and dropped her clearly Spanish surname to adopt a name similar to "Jones". So think Guadalupe Jones. Was that cultural appropriation? Was she trying to hard to "white pass"? No, of course not. 
I've since married an immigrant and adopted his last name which is of a different ethnicity than my own. I'm 'faking diversity'? No, Karen, I believe in family unity and following tradition. It's not for everyone but I absolutely did it. As have all 5 of my sister in laws. 
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