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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow.  Lots of judgment here (not that I wasn't expecting it).

First, I think breastfeeding a toddler or older in public is just asking for trouble.

But I also think there are quite a lot of small minded posters making lots of assumptions as to why anybody would breastfeed past 12 months.

I breastfed my two sons until 6-7 months.

My youngest (a girl) is still nursing at 25 months.  To be perfectly honest, I pretty much hate it, but she is really really attached.  I am a WOHM and so the only time she nurses is at night.  And not every night either.  I truly don't get anything out of it other than wanting to comfort my daughter.  I've tried to wean a number of times.  In fact, I even went away for 3 nights (had to pump a few times) and thought she'd be done.  Nope.  And so there it is.  I don't nurse in public and I don't think I'm somehow ruining my daughter.  For whatever reason, she just isn't ready to wean.

So for all the haters - tell me why I should wean her other than that it seems "gross" or "weird" to you.  It is natural for her and while I personally am getting very sick of it, I am not ready for that fight with her...[/quote]

You should wean her because, at 25 months, she is ready for a different kind of relationship with you. This is evidenced by the fact, frankly, that you seem to be reluctant to even put your foot down about it and establish yourself as the authority. Of course, "she is not ready..." why should she be?  She may not be ready to go to pre-school, or to elementary school, or to high school for that matter, either, but I can't imagine that you would maintain this posture on those subjects.

It is not natural for her, or for any child at this age, beyond the point that it is habit and comfort. But as children grow up, they need to receive comfort in a more mature form from their mothers. You not being ready for the fight is a very poor reason to base this decision on.  Sorry to be so blunt, but those are the facts...[/quote]

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