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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Europeans don’t do sleep overs

Asians don’t do sleep overs

Black people don’t do sleep overs

Latinos don’t do sleepovers

This is a very “new world” whites thing

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What?? I'm 40+ yo Asian and I had sleepovers all the time growing up in my home country.  Not just a white thing. [/quote]

I am so fascinated by this because my 8yo daughter's BFF is Asian and her mom told me no sleepovers because Asians don't do sleepovers. I have always wanted to follow up and ask why but felt weird about it, she was kind of firm and final. The mom is American so it's not an issue of another country's culture. [/quote]

I am an Asian immigrant and I have let both my children have sleepovers, but decide on one on one basis. For me, it depends on my child’s personality, followed by who the friend is. There are friends that are prone to drama and doing things they are not supposed to- those I would avoid.

My sister and cousins are both immigrants from Asia, and both let their children sleepover, if they are comfortable with the family.

But yes, a lot of Asian families are still a bit hesitant and I understand their perspective.

Also, a good friend of mine was touched inappropriately by her friend, on a sleepover ( less than 10 yrs old). That mother does not allow sleepovers, period.

Culturally, Asian families do a lot of sleepovers, but at the grandparents and cousins’ homes, and less at friends- mostly because they don’t know them as well as they know their family. This does not mean that occasionally something untoward doesn’t  happen there. I think there is always a risk anytime a child is out of your presence and in the presence of other adults or children- but we all weigh the risks on a daily basis.

I hope that answers some of you questions. Asians are not monolithic community, so there will be a spectrum of beliefs and actions taken by parents.

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