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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]NP. So many bad takes here. OP, this is a private school. They can do what they want. If you want to attend the school, you can either accept this or go to another school. You can argue with the school if you want, maybe it will work, maybe it won’t. The school is certainly under no obligation to admit your child in the grade you want, versus what the admissions team wants. They’ll just go to the next person on the list if you seem difficult. [/quote]

OP already has another child at currently enrolled there, they aren’t new to the private school world or this school specifically.[/quote]

I know. That still does not mean the school is under any obligation to admit the sibling in the grade that OP prefers. If the school has a wait list — and many do — the school is not going to spend a lot of time worrying about the decision. OP is of course free to ask for reconsideration politely, but the school has no obligation to admit according to what OP wants. All the hyperventilating in this thread is useless. [/quote]

Thank you. OP here. What I was hoping to get from this thread was the opinion of parents of older children. There aren’t many March redshirted kids at our school and I worry that my son will feel “less then” or perhaps other kids will make fun of him. He is also tall for his age and quite athletic (for an almost 5 year old).

I appreciate some some of the apps that mentioned that in middle school this becomes a non issue, but I am afraid of my son being embarrassed of turning 7 in K with some of his friends still being 5 and much smaller than him.

We are not very tall people (though my husband’s family has very tall people) so it’s likely his growth will slow down (it happened with my older kids).[/quote]

He may be embarrassed in K about being older, and then at a huge advantage in middle in high school. From the perspective of a high school son this seems like a no brainer to me, the red shirted boys have a leg up.[/quote]

He will absolutely not be embarrassed about being older. My 2nd grade son just turned 8 a few months ago and has a friend turning 9 in March. They are all jealous he gets to be 9 first. That's how it goes every year.[/quote]

Well, my 2nd grader keeps talking about his classmate who has the same birthday as he does in a few weeks but will be turning 9 instead of 8. My DC is stunned about it and [b]keeps asking if the other boy is “dumb or something.”[/b]

No one is remotely impressed.[/quote]

The issue here is your parenting, not the age another student started kindergarten. Your kid is displaying unacceptable behavior and you need to correct it. Sorry that parenting means telling your child to stop being a dick. [/quote]

NP:  The child can improve his wording, but the speculation will still be there.[/quote]

It's not the wording, it's the sentiment that's the issue. There's a world.pf difference between a child noting that there's a range of ages in a class and jumping to the conclusion that a slightly older kid is "dumb." That behavior and reasoning is learned from the parent and doesn't reflect well on you. [/quote]

I’m the PP with the kid who shares a birthday with the boy who is a year older. My child is incredulous about it. My child is not a bully. He has never mentioned anything about children with disabilities in the class. He has mentioned that there is a reading club for kids who have trouble reading, but he has done so with kindness. He said something like, “that’s too bad that Autumn can’t really read. She seems so upset about it.”

There is no learned behavior from me. I don’t know this boy. I don’t know his parents. I didn’t know that he was exactly a year older than my son. When my child said he must be “dumb or something,” I said I have no idea why he is a year older or why his parents decided to keep him another year.

DC continues to bring it up because he is fascinated by it and really cannot understand. He fluctuates from wondering if the other child is bored or dumb. I say I have no idea. I don’t.

All I do know is that I would never have done the same to my kid. [/quote]

You realize you are just displaying more and more the failures of your parenting? I’m kind of fascinated by your inability to recognize that the failure here is on you.

As people have pointed out before, the only kids who make an issue of this are the badly parented ones, and wow are you providing us with an object lesson. My kids (not redshirted) would never have acted like this, because I taught them manners.

You are making life really, really hard for your poor kid. Teach him some basic social skills before it’s too late and correct his appalling behavior. [/quote]

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