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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. We applied for PK and were told to wait another and keep in preschool for the PK year.

Also, our school is pretty popular and has very long waitlists so I am 110% sure money has nothing to do with it.

Finally, I am sure my son would have been rejected had he not been a sibling. He just does not stand out in any of the ways his older sister (first to attend the school) did.

I spoke to other parents and it seems the school is being really tough on boys lately… not sure. I have also heard that they are trying to increase diversity and we are white.

Again, while my son is probably not a genius, I don’t see what the admission people saw in him that his current teachers did not see in 6 months. I will try to push back and see if there is room for compromise (let him start in K and then we hold back next year if he does not meet requirements).

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So, you hold him back a year so they can take other kids they'd prefer to take and he doesn't get accepted the next year.  Then what?  It seems better to put your child at a school that wants him for him.[/quote]

Schools are a business. They don’t get to know a child and want them for who they are. They want a child for donations, future donations, good behavior, and other attributes.

If this school provides a good education and is willing to work with the family, don’t hold a grudge because the class they are creating will be more mature and better behaved than at an average public school. Moving a child a class down is an easy solution.[/quote]

If the kids are more mature and well behaved, why do you hear about all kinds of behavior problems at some privates AND, if they are more mature, why do privates not often start Algebra until 8th or 9th grade?  So, these kids are much older than their public school cohorts, and their math and other classes are on a slower track.  I'm not even sure how you compare kids at that point as then they don't seem much smarter or capable, just older.[/quote]

Have you ever stepped foot inside a private school?  Your understanding of math and behavior are not accurate.[/quote]

Yes, I have.  We did private until second and looked at multiple schools in 4th and 5th grades and I wasn’t that impressed.  Did summer school at one and the teaching was subpar as they hired a phd student with no teaching skills after promising their own teachers.

Come MS when we did not want to return due to Covid, could not find a school that would keep my child’s math track which was Algebra in 6th.   One said we could pay extra for a teacher to tutor but come hs they did not offer anything past calculus.  [/quote]

Publics tend to accelerate kids in math but learn material at a more shallow level, while privates tend to go slower and deeper in math.

That being said, it is possible to catch up in private as some will still let you accelerate on different paths or take courses over summer like geometry.

The reality is more school to school variation that you would expect.  Our private offers multiple courses past the equivalent of AP Calc BC.[/quote]

That’s not true at all. The public schools have moved to the Singapore Math style approach. They do not accelerate math. They build heavily on concepts, etc. But a public school in a good school district is going to have more advanced students than a private school and will cater to those students, which means faster acceleration for the advanced kids. I actually switched to public because the math was far superior to my high ranking private.[/quote]

We are mainly in private because the accelerated math in public did not teach the material in depth enough and did not adequately teach critical thinking.  This was a public that use a Singapore math style approach, which was actually way off.  Kids that transfer from public into our school have a lot of trouble with math they supposedly learned.[/quote]

Similar experience here. My child was in the accelerated top math courses in his public middle school and getting straight As. When doing the placement tests for competitive private HS, he barely passed into the middle tier classes, just above their cutoff for their remedial level. The school admitted him, but also made it very clear that he would not qualify for their Honors or AP track math classes. He was far behind the kids who came from other competitive private schools.

This obviously is school dependent but I’m pointing it out because some people insist all good public schools have better math than all privates, which is wildly inaccurate. [/quote]

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