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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP - she will probably never say anything like this to you again after you made your feelings known. If she does, have a response ready. For several years, my MIL said things like "I would have been bored out of my mind staying at home like you," and "I always worked because I liked having my own money," and "I tried staying at home and I hated it" and "shouldn't you go back to work, you probably don't even have enough quarters for social security."

All this and she knew her son worked until 10:30 every night and on weekends (he's an attorney).

Finally after one of her comments, I said, "I've never been bored a day in my life, but I guess maybe you were bored because there wasn't as much to do in your day and you really did feel stuck at home unless you were working. I have plenty to do and love being here for my kids and spending time with them." That shut her up - she's never brought it up again.

But just get used to these comments in general. I've had women make all kinds of weird, inappropriate comments about being a SAHM. At this point, I just think to myself "I don't care - have fun working."[/quote]

While I agree with you and the many other posters who counciled op to let this go and not care. [b]It's really hard to simply do that when you do care. I've been there and it was a struggle! I cared about the opinions of everyone until a light switch went off and I didn't.[/b]

I had to go through a lot of angst first and it sucked. Op, try to take your mind off it in as many ways as possible and know it's perfectly fine to distill your definition of your MIL as she has of you. Her contempt is beneath you, be better than that. Don't get bogged down into her black and white definition of life choices. It's even ok to judge her myopic takes right back.[/quote]

Really important point.  I wonder how you got to not caring.[/quote]

I had to experience a living nightmare and get over it [/quote]

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