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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think a couple crying in an OB's office doesn't care whether or not someone else in the waiting room is knitting. [/quote]

I did, yes, and started crying harder because it was triggering. [/quote]

I’m sorry for your loss OP.

But the knitting wasn’t about you nor does whether or not someone else is expecting a baby have any impact on whether or not you are still pregnant or able to get pregnant. This took me a long time to internalize myself.
In fact, when I finally did accept that, I was able to stop viewing every other sign of expectant celebration of life as an affront to my infertility. And then I started to appreciate that these people around me are only trying to joyfully embrace the exact thing that I was desiring for myself. Begrudging them the opportunity to express that joy and anticipation and celebration—even in small ways like knitting baby booties—was not going to make my pain of loss lessen or make my hurt at the elusiveness of motherhood any less acute.

Sometimes it helps to have somewhere to put your anger in those moments…and for you, it was knitting-lady.
But accepting that her situation has nothing to do with yours will really help in your healing. I promise you this.

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