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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP I could be your daughter. I’m in DC in a high paying medical specialty and raising a daughter. I’m a single mom, to boot. I would give anything to have my parents nearby. I love them. But they will not, not ever, move here (too expensive, too stressful, which I understand). The only choice they’ve given me is for me to move back home with my daughter in tow to their Midwest city. I’ve considered it, but I’d have to leave my job, find another, pull DD out of school (now in 6th grade), etc. I want nothing more than to have more family in our lives. But it’s their way or the highway, and they’re both retired. They won’t talk about a condo here 1/2 of the year, or extended stays, etc. It’s…very one-sided. [/quote]

Do you mind sharing what you're spending annually on child care in Washington for one tween child, as a successful single mother with no family or spouse to help?[/quote]

Sure. My hours are odd and sometimes include overnights, currently it’s anywhere from 2-3K/mo for DD’s nanny. I was fortunate to find a lovely middle-aged mom whose kids are grown and is able to drive. As DD gets older she may need more of a college student type, but I prefer older women as they tend to be more reliable. Many of my peers have au pairs but it isn’t my preference to have  someone else living with us. Above all I note how much of the economy is possible based on women’s labor and that my career is the same. I make sure to treat our nanny with respect and warmth, pay her as well as I can, and thank her regularly.

To the poster above who pointed out the merits of living elsewhere, I agree. DC isn’t ideal, but we’re rooted here now, and my parents are rooted there. Still I question these choices and miss them. [/quote]

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