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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I still don’t see how throwing away an eraser is somehow equivalent to excluding one girl out of the whole class. I wonder sometimes the mean little things our daughters do that we never know about while absolutely blasting someone else’s daughter for being a “mean girl” as if it’s their whole identity. Based on a story about an eraser. [/quote]

Yeah this is mind boggling. A documented case of bullying usually involves teacher conferences, the principal gets involved, the parents are involved. It's a whole thing. This doesn't sound like bullying - this sounds like a pre-pubescent kid had a couple of hormonal days and took it out on their classmates (god forbid  :roll: ). OP says the parents are nice - why not just talk to them and find out what's going on? There's time for this situation to get better and for everyone to have a better year at school. I don't see how excluding this kid from a birthday party is going to do that. If OP's kid is inviting all the girls in class as a rule, she should invite this girl. It's far-fetched that she's best buddies with all the girls in class and has to invite all of them but this girl. [/quote]

I would say it is rare for bullying to be documented with teacher conferences. Those are the extreme cases. However, we all know that bullying is common and happens every day. But we’re not talking about a bully. We are talking about a mean girl which can be the same or different. The only person’s feelings who ultimately matter here are the birthday girls and she does not want the mean girl at her party and I don’t blame her one bit. I had lots of mean girls in my life, and I would not want them at my birthday party either.

With all of you who are advocating to invite her want a mean girl, or the mean queen bee (adult version) at your party? I think not, unless you’re a striver.
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Not a striver. Just an adult who knows that kids are kids and that there's always more than one side to a story. This kid has been mean to her daughter and the whole class all year? And she knows the parents? And they are nice? And she hasn't said one word to them to try to figure out what's going on? Maybe this girl feels excluded at school by OP's daughter and her millions of friends. Maybe she has anxiety and has few tools to deal with it so she lashes out. I'm not saying invite her to the party. I'm saying get more information before you label someone a mean girl and call her a bully and completely exclude her from a party that will 100% be talked about at school. It's only going to make the situation worse. [/quote]

OP already said this girl has friends in the other class. Curious you have so much empathy for the "you are so ugly!" girl but none for the birthday girl who just wants to have a fun party. It's not OPs job to bring attention to what the daughter is doing. Their concern is for and should be their own daughter. Do you know believe your kids when they tell you their troubles?[/quote]

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