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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Lol, telling people "whatever you're just mad because your kids can't keep up" is really proving the OP's point.

The real issue is that I don't want to raise my kid somewhere that requires her to be "the best" in order to feel good about herself. I of course encourage her to try her best and she has things she's great at (school) and things she struggles with (sports). That's normal and will not inhibit her ability to have a successful, good life.

So we're moving to an area where it's totally okay to be a math whiz with no hand-eye coordination, are a B student who does student government and rec soccer, or a band geek who is saving up babysitting money to buy a keyboard because she wants to start a ruck band. In places that are not ultra-competitive, all of these kids would be described in the community as "great kids." Because they are! Well I have a great kid too, and I'm tired of living somewhere where anyone sees her as lacking because she isn't an elite athlete who speaks three languages, has been to four continents, and gets straight As. She's not lacking, our family isn't lacking, this area is just nuts.

So yeah, I guess we just couldn't hack it.[/quote]

Yes, your kids sound like they couldn’t compete. You did what you felt was best for your family.

My kids are not the best at anything. They are bad musicians but enjoy playing their instruments. I have one kid who is borderline elite at a sport but unlikely D1 recruit material. He enjoys playing his sport and he is better than 99% of the kids in the DMV. My daughter loves to dance. I don’t have any expectations on this.

I moved around a lot as a kid. I was not an athlete. The rural areas seemed more obsessed with sports. I went to a Midwest high school for a year where farmers came as well as professor’s kids. Football and basketball was everything at that school. It was much more the good looking athletes were at the top like in the 90s movies. An urban or suburban setting often would be more accepting of different kinds of people, especially racial, religious and sexual differences. The dorky unathletic girl may be more uncool and unaccepted at some rural area.[/quote]

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