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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Lol, telling people "whatever you're just mad because your kids can't keep up" is really proving the OP's point.

[b]The real issue is that I don't want to raise my kid somewhere that requires her to be "the best" in order to feel good about herself.[/b] I of course encourage her to try her best and she has things she's great at (school) and things she struggles with (sports). That's normal and will not inhibit her ability to have a successful, good life.

So we're moving to an area where it's totally okay to be a math whiz with no hand-eye coordination, are a B student who does student government and rec soccer, or a band geek who is saving up babysitting money to buy a keyboard because she wants to start a ruck band. In places that are not ultra-competitive, all of these kids would be described in the community as "great kids." Because they are! Well I have a great kid too, and I'm tired of living somewhere where anyone sees her as lacking because she isn't an elite athlete who speaks three languages, has been to four continents, and gets straight As. She's not lacking, our family isn't lacking, this area is just nuts.

So yeah, I guess we just couldn't hack it.[/quote]

Whether a person feels good about themselves is something internal, not something external. What happens when she eventually encounters people who speaks 3 languages, etc.? Will she feel bad about herself and make sure she also moves to an area where she never sees these people? Or will she feel confident that she's great even if she doesn't have those skills?[/quote]

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