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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The next time somebody assaults her (and there will be a next time), she needs to grab hold of them, hang on until [b]she is dragged off, and in the meantime do everything she possibly can to visibly and painfully injure the attacker, all the while screaming “stop molesting me” at the top of her lungs.[/b]  Practice gently at home. Get the therapist involved.[/quote]

Seriously? Have you ever actually been to a high school? This would be very weird behavior completely out of proportion to what’s happening (unless “grope” is being used to describe something much different from what I think most of us understand).

MS and HS boys are awkwardly fumbling around trying to learn to how to flirt with girls, demonstrate interest, compete with one another, etc. Of course they shouldn’t be assaulting anyone. But if we’re talking about like a playful slap on the butt or something, I think DD can stand up for herself forcefully and tell the kid to knock it off without making herself look like a crazy person. I can just picture it… clawing at this kid, gouging eyes, hanging on to his shirt and screaming “stop molesting me!” in the middle of the hallway.  :shock: [/quote]

While I agree that the PP's idea that OP's anxious, private child is going to physically attack the offender is both ridiculous and almost impossible, your "explanation" of what's going on with boys is part of the problem with rape culture. You imply that this is "normal" and that a "playful slap on the butt" is not a big deal, just boys being boys and she can stand up for herself.  That's a bunch of sexist bullsh*t, whatever gender you are it's still sexist and misogynist.

Stop making excuses for "boys being boys" and start saying "Yes, boys absolutely shouldn't touch girls AT ALL without the girl's consent, let's do better at teaching boys about the need for consent, and all unwanted touching needs to be taken seriously and stopped." If you're not saying that, you're perpetuating the rape culture.[/quote]

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