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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’d tell her that she has the responsibility to protect other girls from experiencing what she did. She is likely not alone. She’s only 12 and you need to step in. [/quote]

No, no NO. It is NOT a 12 yr old's responsibility to protect other girls. It is the ADULTS involved in positions of decision-making who are responsible. And to say it the way you do makes it like the hell that that 12 yr old might go through in doing the right thing is somehow not a big deal or not important.

Yes, have conversations about how there were probably girls before her that didn't speak up and it let's people like this boy keep hurting other girls. But ALSO tell her that she's a victim, none of this is her fault, and doing the right thing IS the right thing to do, and it's also not easy. Tell her as a parent that you will do all you can to protect HER from more stress, and work with the school to set up a safety net for her, but that most of all she has to stay clear that this shouldn't happen and if she doesn't speak up, it's harder for the adults to stop him, though OP will still try.

But in the end, OP has to support her DD and work with her to be as ok as she can be, as protected as she can be, and making her feel responsible for what happens to other girls is not fair, not just, and punishes OP's DD even more.[/quote]

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