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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I guess I am a boomer, because it never occurred to me that this is an inappropriate question.  without being sarcastic or snotty, can someone explain what is wrong with asking this?[/quote]

It’s because of the enormous expense now associated with college. Essentially, this question is asking a child how wealthy their family is. It’s very tacky, at best.

When the boomers applied, the cost was far less of a factor. So, they could ask openly because it really wasn’t going to be a deeply financial inquiry.

The question is particularly insensitive to kids at private schools who receive aid, [b]many of whom volunteer to be guides. They’re often excited about the school and appreciate the aid, and view admissions tours as a way to show appreciation[/b]. But their college choice may be significantly constrained by money, and that’s not anything they should need to explain to a nosy stranger.

The question is essentially a proxy for asking family income, which is obviously rude. [/quote]

Oh this is so great. This thread keeps on giving.

OP, PP thinks you’re probably poor because your kid is a tour guide to show appreciation to her benefactors for allowing her to attend. [/quote]

It’s really appalling how many of you seem to want to grill kids on their family’s financial status. Honestly, who raised you people? Wolves have better manners. [/quote]
I volunteer for the admissions office as did my kid and we are full pay so you are off on that assumption. Also, I would never think that question has anything to do with financial status as many many of the most rejective schools are need blind! So that isn’t an issue for the oh so poor families you think are giving these tours. Geez pp
It is a basic question people ask ALL seniors even at public schools in other parts of the country to make conversation. As a tour guide I would expect it and either respond honestly if comfortable with the name of a couple of them or what kind of major you are looking at and say “ I’m looking at schools with strong xyx programs.”
If anything they are asking to see what kind of schools these kids think they have a shot at getting into, as in what the school has prepared that student for. I assure you no one is trying to gauge how much money the kid’s family has! [/quote]

I’ve also volunteered and yes, this is a question that goes directly to family financial status. It’s rude and intrusive.

I swear I have no idea what has happened to basic manners in this country. [/quote]

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