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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a European fit woman I don’t see how it would devastate me if my partner told he wanted me to become my former self. American women are full of s..t and self-justifying their poor eating habits.  [/quote]

Cut the racist bullshite[/quote]

I have an Italian gf and she straight up tells me if I’m getting a bit puffy in my midsection

She’ll poke / pinch and say:

“La Pancia” and shake her head

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I’m foreign born and always tell my American BF that he’s got lazy when I see his belly getting pregnant. I’m thin with 27 inches mid section in my 40s. No tolerance to extra fat there. It made him work out and eat less. He knows I won’t stay with him if he gets fat 
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So you do not love him, you only are his "girlfriend" because you want to have sex with him and only if he has a specific body you've deemed acceptable.

OK then. As long as he understands you don't see him as a complete person but only as a body, and that if he were to, say, change physically due to illness, injury, etc., you will vanish. But surely you've made that clear, right? [/quote]

If he gets sick - no, I’ll support him and accept less sex. But getting fat (not working out, hermit lifestyle with beer by TV ) is simply disrespectful to yourself and y[/quote]

Wow, did you miss the point. You'll "support him and [i]accept[/i] less sex"? OK, for how long? How long would you condescendingly "accept" less sex? What about no sex, if he were injured in a way he couldn't have sex at all? You'd be out of there sooner rather than later. And you'd probably say on the way out the door that you know it's what he'd want for you....

And you totally missed the idea that some illnesses can make people gain weight, weight they may never lose. Some medications do this too. Some conditions and injuries cause weight gain and other issues of appearance that can't necessarily be changed. I wonder how long you'd nobly support him before you eased on out the door because he could no longer, say, work out enough to keep as trim as you want. [/quote]

Let’s be honest here - most men will dump the wife if she gets sick. This thread is not about extreme situations- it’s about people who consider themselves healthy and justify their chosen lifestyle: be overweight .
Which, of course, if a health risk long term 
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Being overweight isn’t a health risk long term.  I mean, maybe a minor one, but it isn’t the health risk that say, being a skier is.  (It certainly doesn’t affect your life insurance premiums in the same way!!)[/quote]

It’s a risk your partner won’t want you sexually anymore. Partner might be ok taking care of you, being moral etc - but you can’t force people be sexual around you if they want want you, based on your understanding of morality.  It’s just there or not. 
So if someone choses to be overweight they shouldn’t shift the blame for their choices on partner for him/her being “immoral” for not wanting them anymore.

Just live with consequences yourself - others don’t owe you feelings no matter married or not. [/quote]

Sure. The same could be said for cutting your hair short when your partner likes long hair or not wearing makeup or lingerie when you know your spouse likes it.  You make that choice and you have to live with the consequences.  
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I’m a woman and couldn’t care less if a man has hair or not. Being overweight is a major turn off -  just don’t get wet for him. We are programmed to sleep with healthier partners by nature. Similarly,  I can imagine men would have erection issues with overweight partners [/quote]

Overweight women are actually much healthier than the extremely underweight women many women hold up as the ideal.  See which one has an easier time getting pregnant- that says it all about who's healthier. [/quote]

What about comparing overweight women pregnancy chances vs those within normal BMI ? Being overweight can be life threatening during pregnancy [/quote]

But that's exactly proving my point. Underweight women are glorified despite being objectively unhealthy, especially in comparison to normal weight women who are rarely even shown in media.  Let's not pretend this is a health issue lol otherwise the overweight women are going to win over the skinnies.[/quote]

Modern popular models are curvy within normal BMI. Twiggy age is long gone 
Overweight women tend to think that skinny is underweight. The normal BMI is a wide interval [/quote]

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