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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]They’re not even his real kids. They’re his step kids. But he can’t leave his wife on Thanksgiving I guess. So he skips the event and his kids come without him. His real kids, that is.[/quote]

Tale to the wise.

If you get divorced, and your x-DH remarries, this is how your kids will be thought of and treated by their new extended family.

The not real kids.  The step kids.[/quote]

And?? I mean…. is this not obvious? This is how it is most of the time. [/quote]

Seriously. I don't know my stepmother's extended family at all, and it's perfectly fine. I don't think it's reasonable to expect much from them. Perhaps if I were a little kid it would be nice to behave more warmly, but as I'm older, I see no need for it.

The people who pressure others into this kind of coerced togetherness are the insecure, defensive, divorced people and the new wives who want to pretend they are the first wife and have a happy family. The rest of us just understand that step-relationships aren't usually very strong. If you end up really liking each other, great, but I don't think it needs to be an expectation. In fact I think everyone would be a lot happier without the pressure.[/quote]

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