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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So parents who don't earn significant money should anticipate never seeing their grown child or grandchildren because they can't foot the bill for EVERYTHING regardless of the venue. Nice. At some point the parent child relationship becomes reciprocal and stops just being one way, parent to child.  [/quote]

Nope. And no one has said anything close to that. One issue is that the OP — who can afford to plan and pay for an expensive trip — would be expecting the GF — who probably can’t afford an expensive trip — to spend vacation time and money to go on a trip that she had no voice in planning if she wants to vacation with her BF.   That’s not RECIPROCAL. [/quote]

Again not expecting GF to attend just like she should expect me to pay for her. GTFOH to think the GF gets to have a say in the plan for the ILs trip. GF can adult up and plan her own vacation with BF without the ILs. [/quote]

Obviously the GF doesn't get to dictate the vacation.  However, the GF and their son are now a couple.  that means they plan their time off and how to use their vacation funds TOGETHER!  So if you want your kid(s) to join you on vacations now and in the future, if they have a SO you should include them and give them some input (what activities or things do they want to do while at that location).  Otherwise the parents should go on the trip themselves without their son and his GF.    Imagine this: if my ILs expect my husband and me to join them on vacation and they get to dictate everything we do, then Hell NO we are not joining.  Similarly, if they invite my husband to go with them on a vacation and I'm not invited, then NO my husband isn't going and it would be a long time before we spend much time with the ILs and they certainly wouldn't be spending much time with any grandkids.

So yes, the GF can adult up and plan her own vacation with the BF without the ILs.  Of course that means the BF no longer has the vacation days to take for a trip with his parents. So he won't be joining you on this trip.  And in the future, they are not likely to want to spend time with you either[/quote]

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