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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s not one plane ticket. It’s food out and bigger Ubers and bigger accommodations and additional excursions costs……. Just like you women where don’t want to see your MIL all the time or have her include herself in your family events all the time, we want to spend time with our family/our kids without you as well especially if you are expecting me to pay for your full ride while pushing me out of my sons life. [/quote]

Except that's not remotely the same thing at all because once your son is grown and married his immediate/primary family becomes his wife and any kids they may have. Your son is no longer part of your immediate family. So the MIL is not part of the son/DIL/their children's immediate family so that makes sense.

Once married by inviting your son on a trip and not the rest of his immediate family which would be his wife and any kids they may have you are stepping into someone else's immediate family and breaking it up by not inviting them all.

Also not surprised at all that you view it as the DIL pushing you out of your son's life as if your son is a grown man with a say of his own on who he wants to invite. Your son is an adult and can speak up. If his wife makes decisions for him and he doesn't speak up there on him. As an adult man he is responsible for his own actions.

So no you don't get to insert yourself into all of your married son's immediate family only events because you're not a member of that immediate family just like once your son gets married he is now immediate family with his wife. [/quote]

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