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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How do you deal with this? I would be the sole breadwinner too. She makes 1/10th my income and will probably become a SAHM. If we divorce I will be ruined financially.

We have zero issues in our relationship, I just tend to think of worst case scenarios.[/quote]

the risk is real as you know.

you say there sre no issues in the relationship but have you tested her?. Women constantly test their prospective partners but men tend not too. How does she handle being denied what she want? What kind of comments does she make about others? Whats her friend group like - are they single/divorced, do they have good character, etc?  Hoe does she handle you taking a leadership role in the relationship? Does she constantly post on social media for validation? Or insisting on going out to bars with the girls to get hit on. The list goes on. Be on the lookout for pettiness, vindictiveness, narcissistic behavior.

None of these are guarantees of course but you should never even consider marriage without testing your woman. [/quote]

What kinds of tests do you do to your women, pp?  [/quote]

Dont just rely on the image presented when theres no stress or conflict.

That being said you dont have to create tests a lot of times, just be very observant at how she reacts in those moments of stress and conflict. In a simple example, how does she react when she doesnt get what she wants? is she vindictive or bratty - even in seemingly small way. Or how does she react when things dont work right? Does she take even a small amount of accountabiliy/responsibility for the outcome? How much of her self worth ot time is spent seeking validation from strangers or distant acquaintances? Watch them like a hawk in those moments. Because the stressors and conflicts in a marriage dwarf those in a regular relationship, and if shes petty, vindictive, narcissistic, or lacks accoutability when its easy, just imagine how it will be when things get hard.

in the event theres not enough stressors or conflicts in a relationshio over time create a few. Be a hardass or less accommodating in a few circumstances and see how it pans out. [/quote]

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