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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can’t imagine being so lazy with kids. Christmas is about them. I go all out and it’s the thing my kids remember the most about holidays.

My parents do help me cook when they visit and my in-laws dont, but that’s because I like cooking with my mom and my in-laws instead play with dh and the kids.

I do refuse to travel for Christmas though. Other holidays are fine to travel. [/quote]

Agree. Not sure why some of these people even have kids. [/quote]

To have kids.

The people showing up at their home demanding to be waited on? Not kids. No one has kids thinking “at last! I can wash dishes while my in laws sit on the couch!”[/quote]

I am truly sad for you that you can imagine any value in extended family holidays. [/quote]

I can— and do. I don’t see value in exhausting myself to wait on people. My children won’t have holiday memories of an exhausted mother.[/quote]

Heaven forfend they see their mother working hard for her family.[/quote]

Right?! Especially when the alternatives are memories like snuggling with your mother in her bed reading Christmas stories, walking through Christmas lights with her, skating with her, baking cookies with her, having Christmas morning breakfast in bed with her…gosh why would you trade any of those memories for “my mother worked hard at Christmas”?[/quote]

We hosted my MiL and BIL for years when my kids were little and were still able to do all of the above, except breakfast in bed because that seems terrible to me and my kids wouldn’t have wanted to do that.

I don’t see how this is either/or?!?! [/quote]

In cases where the people you’re hosting require a lot of work, they are either or. [b]My husband taught my daughter when she was very small that on Christmas morning you have to bring your parents coffee and buns in bed. Not doing that if you’ve got guests waiting around for you to make them breakfast.
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However the bigger point was I consider any of these memories a million times more valuable than my kids “seeing me working hard”.[/quote]

If the children are working to bring you breakfast in bed, what difference is it to you if she also serves her grandparents in bed?  :lol:

What's up with this crazytown thread--only your parents and your kids should work on the holidays for your benefit. [/quote]

Ok I’m going to answer this just in case there’s someone who actually thought it’s appropriate: our daughters do not go into the bedroom of any adult other than their parent for any reason. That’s…very basic education in 2023.

Our tradition is that our daughters bring us coffee and buns, get in bed with us to read the story of Christmas, and open their stockings in bed with us. I don’t need anyone waiting on me to get up and cook. I don’t need a house full of people making noise. I love our peaceful
Christmas morning.

We see family Christmas Eve and we host Christmas dinner. Christmas morning is just for us.

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