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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My kids' summer has been non-stop camps in various parts of town, activities in the evening, activities on the weekend and I am just over it. I've told my husband I feel like the kids are doing too much, they are running all over town and there's no space to just, I don't know, chill. I am getting anxiety just thinking about it.

DH is annoyed because I don't do...any of this. I don't manage the schedule, I don't drive the kids, I don't pack the lunches or do any of the mental or physical work. My job, while remote, is crazy right now (I also hate it by the way and am angry I can't just up and quit because I can't find anything to do) and I am just frustrated. And I've been out of town for a class for myself and then to visit my mother who is recovering from surgery (she's fine, but it was more of an obligation social visit than healthcare, which frustrated me).

DH got annoyed and said, he manages everything in terms of the kids logistics, works at a job that is demanding (also remote, but flexible, he takes calls in the car and will dip into a coffee shop to work on a document...I can't do that).  He is the default parent (basically like a lot of the women on here). So, he set up the summer camp schedule, but he did talk with all of us in March but it all seemed do-able but now, looking at them coming and going, I'm exhausted just watching them. And he admits he gets tired, which makes me feel massively guilty.

I'm not great with details, I take forever to make a decision because I like to think through things and that takes time, and yes, I admittedly get decision paralysis. But I'm a good mom, I read to the kids, I provide a lot of the emotional support to the kids, I do fun things with them at home and really being an introvert shouldn't make my opinion worthless.

He was angry that I am taking opportunities from the kids that they enjoy and make them happy because of my own feelings. He stopped just short of calling me selfish and saying if I had skin in the game, he'd be more willing to entertain my view here. He basically said if I want to spend time with the kids, that's fine, but it's unfair to expect them to sit around and watch TV and complain about being bored (which admittedly drives me crazy) because I don't like the schedule. Especially since I don't have to go anywhere.

But my feelings matter, right? [/quote]

Your feelings matter but you are being selfish.[/quote]

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