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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’d not be fine with this at all. Either the coworker will start to look good, the old “we were friends until” that is fine if two people are single, or the person starts to view their spouse as a nag because you do need to talk about household things and because spouses will ask things of you that nobody else will. “Hey, the towel bar fell off again, did you call the handyman” isn’t something a coworker will ever say to you. 
I trust my husband just fine, I’m also not going to be happy if he essentially went out on a date with another woman which is what “drinks with a female coworker” is. Plus, why would anybody want to mix work and alcohol and by work I mean the people you work with. Way too risky in 2023. 
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+1. I agree with this. Also, in terms of the alcohol thing, it’s one thing for a department/team/group to have drinks together at a holiday party etc. One on one drinks are inherently more intimate and it is a date like setting. [/quote]

Your spouse probably doesn’t tell you that they go out to lunch, dinner or drinks alone with women. How will you even know? My male coworkers msg me on weekends, on vacations, in the evenings and I bet their wives don’t know either. Just this week my one coworker was on vacation with his family and he sent me a picture of something he thought I would like that he saw at a store. I doubt his wife knows I even exist.

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Well, yeah, your spouse could very well be sneaking around behind your back. The question is would you feel comfortable with your spouse spending hours out drinking with a coworker of the opposite sex. No, you can’t guarantee it wouldn’t happen but, my answer is, no, I would not feel comfortable with it. [/quote]

The point is your spouse is already spending hours with a coworker of the opposite sex and you feeling comfortable about it plays no role. [/quote]

I’m not sure I understand your point. I do feel comfortable with my spouse working at the office with opposite sex colleagues. In response to OPs question, I would not feel comfortable in most cases with them spending free time in the evenings drinking with an opposite sex colleague.[/quote]

You can become super close to a coworker and cross boundaries without ever going out for drinks alone.  Be worried about your spouse working closely with attractive women if you want to worry.[/quote]

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