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[quote=Anonymous][quote] Yes my spouse is the negative Nellie and always predicting disaster which means I need to counterbalance him. Esp for the sake of the kids. Usually it’s not as we are doing something it’s his predictions (there will be tons of traffic and we won’t make it; it will be too hot and crowded to enjoy; the kids will complain the entire way on the hike: ds wont be able to manage anything that hard etc; if it’s that cheap how do you know the hotel is nice it’s probably a dump ). It’s exhausting to be around such negativity. I was never a positive person but it’s pushed me to take that role for balance

Sounds like he’s good at planning and you aren’t.[/quote]

I wouldn’t know since he leaves me to plan everything. I actually am a good planner, I do all the research ahead of time to ensure the best possible outcomes (not always in our control of course) and DH just parachutes in with his opinions. I’ve invited him to take on the planning and inevitably it’s too stressful. So i do it, he gets negative, the kids and I roll our eyes and it’s usually better than fine and Mayer he will admit that. He will make a restaurant reservation of course but things like travel, camps, family activites etc are usually all on me. We recently did a 10 day trip that was amazing and half way through he acknowledged it was great  and expressed gratitude for my efforts in planning it ; I think his reactions are usually a form of anxiety that he’s learned from childhood. So an annoying quirk but I’ve leaned to live with it (and he puts up with my annoying quirks).[/quote]

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