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I completely understand the feeling of needing or wanting to sleep with him again.
Contrary to what other people think, you're not rewarding him for the affair -- you just want to feel closer to him (especially if you have no plans on leaving him).

It's natural to wonder if he still desires you after an affair... its natural to WANT him to desire you again after an affair.
It's natural to try to make him fall in love with you all over again after an affair.
It's natural to sleep with him because you're worried if you don't, he'll go back to her after an affair.

You sound pretty rational and level-headed, so I'm going to be honest with you... doing all of that is great if it satisfies you... but don't sleep with him because you want a certain end result to happen, also with him because you desire him,  not because you're afraid he'll cheat again.

You know the signs if this were to happen again, so my one piece of advice is... don't take their word that it's over, just because they both say that it was.
He lied to you the entire length of the affair, he could be still lying to you.

When you're caught up in an affair, it's something new, exciting & enticing... you're suddenly feeling all of these emotions and feelings that you'd thought you'd never feel again, you're feeling desired.
It's very, very difficult to cut something like that off cold turkey -- it's a very powerful feeling, and very much like an addiction.

Just keep your eyes wide open, because a burner phone it's super easy to buy right now -- I got one to leave in my son's glove compartment for emergencies. 
The phone was $18 & I loaded a $10 prepaid card on it which gave me 1000 talk time minutes, and 1000 texts.

Shipped overnight, and all for under $30 -- it was that easy.

So remember,  if he has a reason to leave the house, he could be communicating with her still.

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Don’t phones have to have an email account tied to them or anything? [/quote]

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