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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A gap year sounds a great idea.  If he defers the acceptance he has now, it is really hard to even seen a down side to this.
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why do people keep talking about deferring?  Her kid doesn't want to go to the school.[/quote]

NP. But he needs to go somewhere, right?[/quote]
according to him, he doesn't have to go anywhere this year. He can take a gap year and then apply some place else.  He doesn't want to go to the one he got into, so how does deferring help his problem?

If he wants a gap year and reluctantly accepts, then him taking the gap year is about sulking.  I would not let my kid sulk like that. Short term upset is understandable.  My kid was the same.  But a whole year to sulk? That isn't someone who can defer and be happy after a year.

Someone who sulks about getting into only one college that he applied to such that he'd rather work on a farm for a year doesn't seem like a person who can deal with life's disappointments.[/quote]

He also doesn't seem like someone who really wants to go to college.

A better course of action would be to go to the one college that accepted him, work super hard, make impressive grades, and then apply to transfer to the college he really wanted.

Working a year on a farm is fine, and may benenfit him if he wants to pursue an agriculture degree, but that's about it. Especially if he is working for family. He basically has an easy way out planned, and it's probably not going to alter any outcomes from the colleges he really wants to attend this year.[/quote]

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