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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why are millennials (men or women) having kids at all if all they are going to do is fight over who has to take care of them? Really! Why do you have kids?  This thread makes me so sad for all these kids. [/quote]

Your reading comprehension is less than desirable. It is about childcare plus household management and for most of us, plus having dual-income marriages. All three need to be balanced in order to work. Even if one person has a job and the other doesn't to take care of the children means that household stuff is still needing to be balanced. The balance is not childcare + house and working. If two people work and their childcare is outsourced to daycare, then childcare and house need to be taken care of by both outside of working hours.

I would love to work my 8.5 hours and then be with my kid in the morning and afternoon until bed 100%[b] but that means that the cooking, laundry, cleaning, organizing, grocery shopping, etc. all needs to be done 100% by my partner. [/b]And then we each have individual time and married time from after kid bedtime - our own bedtimes. What most people are complaining about is the situation where a working mom is doing 90% of the childcare before and after work plus 50% of the housework (or more).

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Strongly disagree with this and I think this is a major flaw in modern parenting in liberal circles.  The children should be involved in most of this.  You can most certainly spend time with your kids while they also help clean, prepare dinner, tidy up etc.  You don’t need to entertain your kids like so many modern parents do.  [/quote]

But that gets back to the "why have kids in the first place?!" I had kids because I wanted to play with them, teach them, spend time with them. I want to entertain them.

And yes, I think this is a very modern view on parenting and it's why so many of us are failing. Our parents and grandparents had better work life balances and quality of life because they didn't entertain and play with kids. [/quote]

I absolutely do not want to entertain my children. Spend time with them and teach them, absolutely. But I think entertaining kids makes for entitled children. It’s much more important to teach your kids to help run the household. This is especially true for the middle class, where there’s no money left for outsourcing. [/quote]

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