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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would discuss it with your daughter. I don't know why you'd worry about it upsetting her -- as long as you stay empathetic and supportive of her, this is just something she should be able to deal with.

I also think there's a vast difference between being expected to "be everyone's friend" and being expected to treat everyone with kindness, and I'd have a conversation about that. Being popular does in fact come with some responsibilities, and one of them is that your behavior and opinions carry more weight. Even if your daughter does not mean to be gossipy or exclusionary, it can happen very easily. Sometimes teenagers (and adult women) normalize behaviors like talking about other girls when they aren't around, or keeping certain activities "secret" in order to avoid inviting certain people. These are unkind behaviors and there are better ways to handle them. I think you need to be talking with your daughter about what those better ways are.

As is always the case with this subject on DCUM, I remain disappointed in the attitude so many people have that kids who are less popular should simply accept being treated poorly by their peers even if that treatment is unnecessary and harmful.[/quote]

Personally I’m shocked by the number of people who seem to think that an anonymous creepy email should be taken at face value. It is actually insane to me.

If I responded, the only response I would have is “I do not engage with anonymous correspondents.” [/quote]

PP here. I am shocked at the imbalance too. Of course the expectation is that your child needs to be kind out in the world, etc., but I think this situation is equally likely to be a personal beef between the daughter and the anonymous letter writer.[/quote]

My money says the author is a heartbroken parent. OP should take this seriously and not listen to the mean girls on dcum who think this behavior is ok.[/quote]

Nobody thinks bullying is okay. Sending vaguely threatening anonymous emails is not remotely okay. It is shocking you think it is. [/quote]

OP never said anything to indicate it was threatening in any way. That was what other posters put on it.  And plenty of people are prepared to disregard it and blame the author, which indicates they consider finding out if it is true completely unimportant.  [/quote]

Sigh. The threatening sentence has been repeatedly pointed out is this thread. You’re so desperately invested in the Poor Bullied Victim fanfiction you’re writing that you continue t choose to ignore it, but that’s on you,[/quote]

I suspect PP you are responding to regularly sends people threatening anonymous emails and is not happy that people don’t believe them. [/quote]

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