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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Young weddings shortly after college are so romantic and gorgeous. Babies in your early or mid 20s, your body bounces back immediately. Young hot parents with two white collar incomes, working from home, quickly buying a nice big house. It ought to be the dream.[/quote]
no, that's my nightmare. I wanted to travel and do things and build my career.[/quote]

Why?  To what purpose?  In PP's dream both have jobs and are doing their career and most likely travel.  [/quote]

And grandparents live next door and even though by this match are probably only 40, luckily they're retired! They can take the kids at any time, anywhere.

The nice thing is you get to live in the city, but als have a horse in your backyard. Everyone has a pony in fact.[/quote]
Also, you have rich parents so you don't need to worry about college costs or having a huge loan.    And we can all retire at 50.

:roll:  :lol: [/quote]

50 is too old! You must retire by 39 so that you can then raise your grandkids.

The good news is that everyone is so young, healthy, wealthy, and beautiful that somehow it all just works out. Just marry when you're 20, get two white collar jobs, and have babies early. Magic presto, all good.[/quote]
Right? Every 20 something year old will bounce right back after popping out two babies. The 20 something yr old man will be the perfect father and do half of the childcare and housechores and support his wife's career, all while he give hers plenty of time to work on herself, like going to the gym and the salon so she can look pretty for him. Oh, and she will be ready and willing to have sex whenever he demands it.

Yea, it's a perfect life.

LOL[/quote]

You're projecting, dear. Nobody said 20 years old. The literal title of this thread is 22 to 27, i.e. after both parties have earned their bachelor's degrees and have begun full-time careers and/or professional school.[/quote]
First of all, you have reading comprehension issues. Slow down, and read more carefully.  I stated "20 something", as in 22 to 27.

Secondly, even at 27, a college grad will just be on the cusp of hitting the upward trajectory of their career.  Mid to upper level management are not filled with 27 yr olds. They are filled with 30 something year olds and  upwards.

OP's post is fine for people who don't have career aspirations and don't want to do anything else but have kids and a SFH. If that's the kind of life you want, then sure.

But, I have told my teens NOT to get married until they are at least 30 and are financially stable and have savings. Most 20 something yr olds are still rather immature and don't really know what they want until they get closer to 30.

I am 52, and my sisters married in their 20s.  Even their kids aren't planning to get serious about marriage until they are closer to 30, and they think that's a good idea. They didn't want their kids getting married at 25.  [/quote]

How does getting married contradict having an ambitious career? Not following.[/quote]

Because she's projecting. Girl boss liar who is unmarried and/or childless.[/quote]
? I'm 52, had a good career, and have two teens.  I worked on my career first and traveled, and did want I wanted to do. Once you get married, it's a lot harder to focus just on yourself.

I built up my career and my own wealth, then found a partner. I do not ever recommend a woman being reliant upon a man to help build her wealth.  She should be able to do it on her own.

I am jaded. I saw my mother and sisters go through hell in their marriages; they got married in their 20s and couldn't focus on themselves, career or build their own wealth.
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