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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Interesting article. I read it - and to PPs, I don’t think it is people moaning at all. It is about how life if different for today’s 40 year olds - objectively different, from the sorts of crises we have experienced in recent times, to the cost of housing, the aging population, etc. The headline refers to the idea that the pop culture mid life crisis where a guy buys a flashy car and runs away with a younger woman is unlikely for today’s 40 something men, who may have only just got married/had kids for the first time.[/quote]

Any discussion as to the impact of marrying later in life?

The reality is that a couple can begin building assets when they combine their two incomes.

I wonder if maybe they’re just doing it wrong?

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Once again for the people in the back: when you say Millenials "did it wrong" in terms of the choices they made between 18 and 25 or so, you are actually complaining about how they were raised and the values they were raised with.

Regarding getting married young: my boomer parents (who got married at 19 and 22) would have been HORRIFIED if any of their children had gotten married before the age of 25. My dad attended a state university for like $500 a year (seriously, I'm pretty sure that's how much it cost, and no, that is not equivalent to the $25k that same university would cost now "in today's dollars") and my mom did not go to college. But if any of their kids had said we weren't going to go to college, they would have been ashamed and embarrassed. Actually that's exactly what happened with my younger brother, who has never been remotely academic and absolutely did not want to go to college, and they talked him into getting a 4-year degree anyway at a school that cost 30k/year (because a less expensive state school would not take him because his grades were so bad).

My parents desperately did not want us to follow in their footsteps and heavily influenced all of us to attend the best (and most expensive) schools we could, to delay marriage until we were "more established" and to not have kids until at least our late 20s. And by and large we did as they expected. And I'm not alone. I don't know anyone whose parents would have encouraged them to get married young and know plenty of people whose parents told them explicitly they should wait until their late 20s "at least."

I don't know where Boomers got this idea. They also were really into their kids going to grad school. Going to law school is basically the only thing I've ever done for which my dad expressed any pride at all. Which is ironic because it's the life choice I most regret.

Anyway, it's just so strange that suddenly you're all like "go to state school, get married young, have kids early" because that's the exact opposite of what my parents and all my peers parents told us to do back in the day. [/quote]

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