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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In my 30s my close friend succumbed to this. He was a senior partner at her firm well respected and she was his mentee. They had a multi year torrid affair that consumed her 30s and she missed her chance to marry. He eventually died. She remained single. It broke my heart to watch bc she was so beautiful, smart, intelligent, successful and a good person. She had some unresolved childhood issues. It was hard to watch, because I love her and didn’t want her to miss having a husband. But I never judged her or considered her a bad person. Just a real person with real history and real limitations that tripped her up. She was repeatedly a target for older married men but only ever responded to this one.[/quote]

Did you meet his wife?9[/quote]

I saw her once. Never met him. But what is the point of this question. Obviously he had a wife.[/quote]

That you think your friend was a good person and both of you have zero empathy.

I would have pulled a way from any friend that was “dating” a married father.  It goes so far against my morals.  I wouldn’t condone it and I couldn’t sit there for years like you did hearing about her affair.  You did her a disservice by sitting there supporting it.  And like you said she ended up alone without kids or a family for wasting all of those years.[/quote]

I never said I supported or condoned it. I told her my concerns which certainly strained the friendship but unlike you I can recognize that there is more to a person than their worst decisions. She has some issues. As it seems you do. Just bc your spouse cheated on you doesn’t make YOU a good person either. Sounds like you use it as cover for some serious personality deficits actually. Here’s hoping you yourself learn some empathy someday because it sounds like you only care about yourself. Pot, kettle.[/quote]

My spouse has never cheated and I’m not friends with women that bang married men.  If one cane to me and said she was cheating on her husband, I’d have serious issues and would let her know what I thought.  That would be the end of it for me until she hit her sh@t together.[/quote]

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