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[quote=Anonymous]Dump him, op. If he wants to be a boyfriend, he needs to act like one.  I’d also not be pleased that he started the gift conversation, you got him something and he couldn’t get you anything, not chocolate, not a book, not a blanket, nothing.  He couldn’t even say “oh s**, I thought Valentine’s Day was in a week” or “I’ve ordered you something, it will be here soon” and then actually order you something if for whatever reason he can’t be honest. To just accept a gift that he wanted and say/do nothing is a jerk thing to do.

O those who say OP is being a baby, nobody is saying you have to participate in anything.  I do wonder though if any of you who don’t “do sentimental” have ever handed a gift back with the phrase “Gross, I don’t believe in (whatever holiday the gift was given)

To me, the neat thing about holiday is you can give gifts to people when it might otherwise seem weird or the ever popular controlling and creepy, something the “no fake holidays” crowd has never addressed, when exactly is it appropriate to give a gift to someone you love, romantic partner or otherwise.  I’ll always remember the time my then 3-year-old saw a toilet plunger with the poop emoji and wanted to get it for a family member who’s a plumber. It was Christmastime, we were talking about giving gifts to people we love, and up until that point, I didn’t know she knew what this family member did for a living.  The plunger isn’t practical but this family member was absolutely thrilled with it. He told her “I keep this in my truck and I think of you every time I see it”. When exactly are cool moments like that supposed to happen for you fake holiday types? The gift wasn’t for a romantic partner of course but it was special to see my young kid care about someone she doesn’t see on the daily.

I’ll add too that if you’ve been married awhile, it can be hard to remember the new relationship phase.  My husband didn’t get me anything for Valentine’s Day until I reminded him.. he did though get us (the us being him and I) a very nice new mattress, something we needed but that he could have easily refused, the problem with the mattress was on my side of the bed, I’m admittedly more into physical comfort then he is, yet he got us the mattress and put a lot of care in thinking of my comfort.  No way could he or should he have gotten *me* a new mattress when we were dating.  He’s done other things that make sense for a married person,  finding a job where he can work from home again something that would seem controlling if I’d asked him to do that when we were dating.  How do you all not understand this? Dating and marriage can sometimes look very different.  It’s nice to be with someone who cares about you and will demonstrate that in ways a friend simply won’t.  
For those of you who don’t believe in gifts or other gestures of romance, how exactly are people supposed to convey “yes, I love you, yes I want to be regarded as more then a dear friend?” and when exactly are these gestures supposed to be made in a way that doesn’t come off as inappropriate? 
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