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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op - they basically said we know you’re going to be in x state and so we’ve arranged to go on vaca from there after Xmas so we can come join you for Xmas and the day after. 
I feel like I’m gonna have to talk to my parents and say we just need to suck it up that they join. It feels too mean to say you can’t come. My feeling is they shouldn’t expect to come - but clearly they do so given that fact I think we prob just need to accept it [/quote]

I feel sorry for your parents in this scenario because they've been waiting their turn, so to speak. If it were me, I'd say something to the ILs like "This year we're going to spend Thanksgiving with you and Christmas with my parents, since we've spent the last few with you. That way we can have some nice one on one time with each set of grandparents. Next year we'll do the reverse. Are you available to do Christmas with the grandkids on the 22nd before we leave?" You can frame it as the way you want to approach holidays, not as anybody being dis-invited. [/quote]

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