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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am honestly confused.

I am the poster who has the goddaughter mauled by a dog, so my initial reaction was that OP was not overreacting at all.  But now I see these two things.

-- She left her children behind with the dog when she stormed off, including a toddler who is the most vulnerable to being attacked.  I would, in that situation, either remove my toddler or stay and watch my toddler like a hawk.

-- She implies her MIL is an addict who lost custody of her own children, and yet is angry that said MIL doesn't babysit or watch her kids by the lake.  As an overprotective parent, I'd be delighted not to have to convince someone I didn't trust that they can't watch my kids,.  I'd hardly be trying to convince them to do so.

I am really confused, because it seems like OP's motivation isn't to protect her own children.  That doesn't mean her BIL wasn't wrong to bring this animal, but it's very confusing.  [/quote]

You're not confused. You have captured the situation perfectly.

OP doesn't like her in-laws. She justifies it by saying it's about safety, and it definitely has safety-related aspects to it, but the real issue is that OP doesn't like or care about her husband's family. She doesn't seem to even really understand why it would be difficult for her husband to literally cut off his mother and sibling. In fact, she's barely mentioned his role in this situation at all.

OP wasn't actually concerned about her kids being safe around the dog. Whether the dog is dangerous is totally irrelevant to the way this little psychodrama played out then. It's playing the same way now. OP escalated the situation multiple times. She threw a tantrum (her own words) and when people - her husband's family or people on this thread - don't immediately fall to their knees saying "OP, thank you for pointing this deathly situation out to us, how could we have overlooked this terrible safety problem, we must rectify it right away!!!!!" she throws another tantrum and escalates.

OP, you seem pretty angry and unstable. You've got little kids and it sounds like you're pretty stressed and don't feel supported. Have you been evaluated for postpartum depression and/or anxiety? This reaction is outside the norm. If you were my sister or my friend, I'd be worried about you based on Christmas events.[/quote]

Well said.

This also explains the follow up post about the lake. OP took her kids to the lake and she’s mad that other people aren’t watching them closely enough. She’s angry because her DH’s family isn’t more helpful and taking responsibility for her children.

That’s not how it works OP.  Some people have helpful families around, but many of us (most?) do not. You are responsible for keeping your own kids safe. [/quote]

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