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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I say this with kindness, but you come off very hostile and self righteous. I think you are totally right that the dog should not be around your kids, and I’d be aggravated that BIL brought the dog to Christmas, even if it was ostensibly tied up outside.

Instead of reacting in pure anger, have you tried being vulnerable with your relatives? Try explaining to them what you are afraid of in graphic detail and why, as a mom, you just can’t take that risk. Or are they just horrible people that can’t be appealed to? [/quote]

I do not think they are good people and I am not going to bend over backwards to form relationships with them. This is not the first incident like this. Another time it was a cabin by the lake and them treating me like I was crazy for expecting my non-swimming kids to be in arm's reach of an adult at all times.

I resent them for going through 3 births, 2 C sections, and a 5 day hospitalization of DH and getting ZERO help. I resent the drive by grandma thing. I resent that I helped SIL ALOT when her kid was little and now she won't lift a finger to help me.

If I try to appeal to them they will gaslight me and treat me like I am crazy. [/quote]

I agree with all the PP pointing out that THIS IS NOT ABOUT THE DOG - this is about your issues with your IL.

Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies

Talk with your DH, make sure you two agree, work on your boundaries with the in-laws.  that is all you can do.[/quote]

OP - with all due respect I don't think I trust your account of what actually happened, because you sound like you are anxious and angry beyond reason.

But no, animal control is not going to take away your brother in law's dog over growling. 
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