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Maybe they have social anxiety, or are afraid of strangers, or are worried about germs from kids. Why brush all that off like its nothing? [/quote]

These days you can't be too sure. People are still limiting their gatherings to small groups, not traveling, avoiding indoor parties, etc.[/quote]

If the inlaws had said it was social anxiety or fear of germs, then I assume that would've been in the OP.  But maybe OP can clarify.  OP, did the inlaws specify whether they were uncomfortable with the neighbors because of a social anxiety disorder or covid fears or lizard people?[/quote]

In the OP: "I told them that I invited our neighbor and they pitched a fit. They totally flipped out about inviting him and said that this isn't a soup kitchen."

OP was pretty clear about why the parents didn't want the neighbors there. It wasn't for germs. It was because they have soup kitchen cooties.[/quote]

Why would OPs in-laws make a connection between soup kitchens and needy neighbors when OP insists she never mentioned helping them? Kind of weird.[/quote]

I think it makes sense.  If OP said "we invited the neighbors because they didn't have anywhere else to go on Christmas," I can see the inlaws saying "this isn't a soup kitchen" in response.  I mean, I actually can't because who says that, but I guess it tracks. It doesn't mean OP had to have told the inlaws that they were helping the neighbors otherwise.[/quote]

Well later OP says the in-laws said if they wanted to eat with strangers they would go to a restaurant. Supposedly, they said both things or maybe the soup kitchen was just an embellishment. I would think it odd that the in-laws would presume someone who doesn't have family nearby is poor enough to need a soup kitchen.[/quote]

I think the inlaws were referencing the fact that soup kitchens take people with no where else to go, not the fact that soup kitchens serve primarily low-income people.[/quote]

The neighbor is not homeless, he has a home with kids to go to. Money is a little tight, that's all we know about him. We don't even know that he has no other family or options, he simply missed a big Christmas. Lots of people say that because they are grown, grandparents may be dead, cousins scattered, etc. But they don't end up at soup kitchens[/quote]

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