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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow this resonates for me! It feels like shit that people without guidance or role models [b]can often end up making all of the wrong decisions out of pure class ignorance.[/b] It sucks because everyone thinks there is something wrong with you.[/quote] I don't get it. If you were really working class/middle class, why did you major in English? Pretty much all the non-wealthy students at my Ivy majored in STEM or went to law school or finance. [/quote] DP: Because the message that many of us got was simply: “Go to college, get a steady job with benefits.” And no one, anywhere, including at our colleges told us anything that went beyond that. I also think you might be wrong about what “pretty much all the non-wealthy students did”. —and/ or the students you went to school with had access to a lot more information than the students that I went to school with, possibly a decade or more before you. Let me keep repeating this until you get it: You don’t know what you don’t know. And if no one goes out of their way to show you, teach, you, and expose you to what you don’t know — you still don’t know. Nice that all the “non-wealthy “ students that you knew went to law school. That takes time and money and support that many of the “non-wealthy “ students that I went to school with simply did not have. [/quote] My counselors all said “follow your passion” and “do what you love and the money will follow” Major really doesn’t matter anyway. I know a Russian Lit major whose first job was at Goldman. I know many English majors in corporate roles at Disney and Microsoft. The most important things are really internships and those first jobs — it needs to be the right pedigree/path. And most jobs/internships are obtained through networking, so a random MC student won’t have any connections — I literally did not know any professionals except for my pediatrician and dentist and teachers. How would my factory working parents know even an accountant (does H&R Block seasonal worker count)?[/quote] If you were MC at Ivy you use your alumni network. I just had a freshman from my Ivy the other write to me asking me about an internship at my company. Now that is impressive. [/quote] Yes in 2022 with LinkedIn and alumni databases that is totally a thing. I graduated before any of that existed. Maybe there was a printed directory in the career center and I could have mailed them a letter? That would have felt incredibly intrusive...[/quote] There probably was a directory and yes you could have mailed a letter. People appreciate young people taking the initiative. [/quote] You could also have sought out networking events on the campus. They existed in the 2000s while I was there and I am sure recruiting happened when you were there too. [/quote] I definitely did. But I had no way to really evaluate one company vs another, and its not like they talk about salary or potential long term career path in concrete income terms. [/quote] I don’t understand why you keep making excuses. Just from the crowds of students swarming the presenters you could figure out what was in demand and what was not at these career presentations. [/quote] Not sure what is confusing here, I literally said I SQUANDERED the opportunity in the subject line. [b]There are a million different things I could have done, I just was in my own little head having a dream of working in my little STEM field and having a quiet house in the suburbs after a days work. No inkling that sort of life requires far more money than I ever could have imagined unless I moved back home. I wasn't interested in making lots of money, I wanted to improve the world in my own little way and life spare but comfortable life (even now I don't want money for a vacation home or fancy cars -- I simply wish my spouse could not work and miss the kids so much and we could afford a modest house with a reasonable commute on my income). [/b] So now I live this life of quiet desperation, and I realize now if I had just cared more about money back in college, I HAD the chance to go work in Finance or Big Tech or what not, if I had just made a few different choices. Hence SQUANDERED. Mid-life sucks... now I know there is no time to really fix those mistakes.[/quote] Even doing this requires initiative. Being a biologist still requires that you network, go to career fairs, and connect with alumni. You're just lazy and want excuses. [/quote]
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