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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well, I am paying well beyond my CS on my child expenses. One SAT prep courses for high score is $3690. It’s 4 months of CS. Dads don’t feel like paying for college which is obvious from this thread. Parents housing expenses are included in CS calculation - check Maryland CS application form. It’s targeted to even out the income level at both households to provide kids stability.

Anyone divorcing when kids are about to start college should think twice if that decision would leave kids without a good college education [/quote]

My separation agreement says we have to split college prep costs but I bet that'll be another thing XW says I should pay for all by myself.

"Dads don’t feel like paying for college which is obvious from this thread" -- it's just the usual "all men suck" garbage you find in DCUM Relationships but I see no particular reason to believe it.

"It’s targeted to even out the income level at both households to provide kids stability" -- that's gotta end sometime and I would argue it should very obviously end when the kids leave home for college. The arguments in this thread that kids need or deserve parents who have "equal" homes when they come home for holidays or summers is total nonsense. A kid who comes home from a dorm to stay with her mom is [i]not [/i]deprived if her mom has a smaller home than her dad.
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When  I met with my attorney they specifically said the reason my ex was fighting for 50/50 custody and no college was because he didn't want to pay anymore than the bare minimum. He didn't get 50/50 custody and had to pay more in CS but I don't get any college money from him. He is a blue-collar worker. I think this is more typical with the mid to lower classes than the upper classes, but that's just a guess.
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There was no need for him to “fight” no college: no court in any state would obligate a parent to pay fir college beyond community college. You can only pressure in negotiations to sign it, if you have leverage on the ex spouse.
Of course even higher income dads don’t want to pay! See what they say above: why don’t you get your child a cheaper SAT prep? No I can’t. My child already passed 1500 threshold with online course after 2 months self prep, and to get 1550 (which gets him into his goal college) he must take the only existing in the area tailored tutorship service. Dad enrolled him into $99/month shitty class well below his level. I just paid $6k for a higher level SAT prep myself, it’s 6 months of CS
Dad makes over a $1mm/year; I make $300k/year

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You think you somehow represent the middle and lower classes?  No one cares about families making $300k and above. You can get whatever you need to be successful in America. Why are you on here if you have zero money problems?[/quote]

300k is nothing in dmv after college expenses . The point is millionaire ex husbands couldn’t care less. I know several extremely high income dads (sold businesses etc) who didn’t pay or tried to shift college funding on much lower paid exes. Yes they’re exes are not poor but the point is dads used it as means of retaliation at ex wife who got assets in divorce they thought she didn’t deserve. All moms are know (lots of WB, IMF etc professional women) pay for colleges themselves and dads stepped aside. 
And I do think that if a mom is making 100k and dad makes 300k college is on him and it is a separate financial obligation from CS which doesn’t account for it [/quote]

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