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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well, I am paying well beyond my CS on my child expenses. One SAT prep courses for high score is $3690. It’s 4 months of CS. Dads don’t feel like paying for college which is obvious from this thread. Parents housing expenses are included in CS calculation - check Maryland CS application form. It’s targeted to even out the income level at both households to provide kids stability.

Anyone divorcing when kids are about to start college should think twice if that decision would leave kids without a good college education [/quote]

My separation agreement says we have to split college prep costs but I bet that'll be another thing XW says I should pay for all by myself.

"Dads don’t feel like paying for college which is obvious from this thread" -- it's just the usual "all men suck" garbage you find in DCUM Relationships but I see no particular reason to believe it.

"It’s targeted to even out the income level at both households to provide kids stability" -- that's gotta end sometime and I would argue it should very obviously end when the kids leave home for college. The arguments in this thread that kids need or deserve parents who have "equal" homes when they come home for holidays or summers is total nonsense. A kid who comes home from a dorm to stay with her mom is [i]not [/i]deprived if her mom has a smaller home than her dad.
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When  I met with my attorney they specifically said the reason my ex was fighting for 50/50 custody and no college was because he didn't want to pay anymore than the bare minimum. He didn't get 50/50 custody and had to pay more in CS but I don't get any college money from him. He is a blue-collar worker. I think this is more typical with the mid to lower classes than the upper classes, but that's just a guess.
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I demanded and got 50/50 custody because I wanted it and deserved it. My attorney specifically said not to agree to pay for college because "you don't want your ex wife controlling the college money or the college decisionmaking process". My kids are going to college and I am going to pay for it but none of that money is going to go by way of my XW's bank account that's for sure. Reading this thread confirmed the wisdom of that advice, as women feel they have a right to skim off as much of the kids college money for their own use as they deem necessary.  [/quote]

How would your exW would control the college admission or money if you agreed to pay it outside CS? It's paid directly to colleges, not your exW.

My exH is a multi millionaire and he uses the lack of college funding clauses as a tool to reduce my retirement savings. I am making 300K/year but I don't have as high NW and still need to work towards my retirement [/quote]

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