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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I come from a large Irish Catholic family, though my mom was a young widow and I was an only child. My mom had a college degree, somewhat unusual for her time, but it was from a Catholic women’s college. I attended Catholic school until college, though my mom very much wanted me to attend the college she had.

Sooooo many things my mom, family, Catholic school and church did made me want to leave. The list is too long. But whatever Catholic doctrine applied to any given situation, you’d better believe we followed it. Only now, at age 58, do I have the understanding that I was raised in a cult-like environment.

DH is not Catholic. We baptized our kids as such because my mom would have disowned me otherwise. Frankly, the only reason I got away with marrying a non-Catholic is because DH is a charming guy. Mom loved him.

In my extended family, relatives were disowned upon divorce. My devout aunt and uncle missed YEARS of knowing their first grandchild, who was born out of wedlock.

My biggest regret is that I never had the freedom to choose religion for myself, nor could I raise my kids outside the church. We did baptism, confession, and communion for all 4 of our kids, but my mom was in her 90s and not aware of our household happenings as much, so we skipped confirmation for the 4th.

I was robbed from having any freedom of thought or action until I was much older and realized how the cultlike environment of my upbringing had directed so many aspects of my life.

At my mom’s funeral, I turned around and looked inside the cathedral as we left. Barring any wedding that I feel I’ simply must attend, I vowed on the spot that I would never set foot in a Catholic Church again. And I haven’t.

Just don’t raise your kids with edicts regarding religion, whatever religion you may practice. Catholicism has a LOT of them. [/quote]

It’s a shame that you seem never to have learned why the teachings are what they are, so that you could develop an adult Faith and not merely react to what you perceived externally as “edicts.”[/quote]

Is there any way that people can post here without you trying to tear them down? It's specifically a thread for lapsed Catholics. Start your own thread for what did you parents do to help you with your religion and get off this one. [/quote]

I’m not “tearing down” anyone. I simply object to people blaming the Church and its doctrines for their own choices to “lapse” in their Catholic practice. It seems you would prefer an echo chamber.[/quote]

Yes, I would. I didn't take this post to be a discussion or debate. It was merely a question whether people's parents had an effect on their decision to leave the church. Not a discussion about whether or not it was a good decision. So when someone poses why do you love your religion and you answer correctly about your own life, do you like it when people chime in to tell you how stupid that decision is that's yours and not theirs? The question didn't start out Why do you love your religion and think other people's decisions about religions are stupid or lets discuss the pros and cons about following religion. It's merely a question asking you about our own lives. This original post wasn't an invitation to debate. You just can't stand having people list why they left and don't want them to have free choice so you can't leave it alone. This post wasn't for you. [/quote]

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