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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Not an answer to her question though.

Answer. One girl sure, maybe even two. But not her entire friend group. There’s something else going on here.[/quote]

Right, but it may not be fixable.  [b]I remember distinctly in 6th grade that my group of friends and I were furious at another girl in the group because we felt she was boy-crazy and obsessed with boys and did not care about our softball team (which all of us were on) as much as she used to.  At the time it seemed like the worst possible offense - but in reality, we were just at different places in life.[/b]  There's nothing wrong with having less interest in softball and more in boys, but it is really, really hard for immature kids to see something like that in a reasonable light.[/quote]

This happened to me at this age, except I was the late bloomer who was left behind when, seemingly overnight, all my friends became boy-crazy and we just couldn't relate to each other anymore.  I don't think there's anything my mom could have said to the other moms to fix this. 
 It sucked, but I was able to connect with other kids through extracurricular activities (dance, art) so agree with all the advice to encourage DD to meet people outside of school. [/quote]

This, and I had the exact same experience.  6th grade is really weird, in that half of the girls are like 11-going-on-16, while the other half are still little girls.  The more mature girls are going to find the late bloomers immature and annoying, even if they previously were friends.  OP, if you think this is what's happening, there's not much you can do other than encouraging other friendships.  You can't make your DD more mature, and if the other girls are forced to include your DD, they will likely escalate from largely ignoring your DD to being quite mean.  [/quote]

The 11-going-on-16 girls are really disturbing, and their parents who think it’s totally great![/quote]

It really is ok for girls to develop sooner than other girls, both physically and in terms of their interest in the opposite sex.  That is nothing to be ashamed of, nor is having a late bloomer something to be proud of.[/quote]

Not sure exactly what PP meant but some girls in 6th are wearing very mature outfits, watching TikTok, speaking like a much older teen, etc.

It’s the social precociousness, not physical. 
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+1 🤮 [/quote]

That “social precociousness” is a totally normal stage of puberty.[/quote]

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