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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Okay, I give up. Obviously the only right thing to do is abort kids with Down syndrome, and anyone who thinks differently is just in denial, an asshole, or trying to control other people. Too bad people with Ds don't get a say in this.

And yes, to the PP, having a child with Ds is very much like having a typical kid, hard as that obviously is for those in this thread to believe. Most children with Ds don't have "wires coming out of every orifice."

Why can't the pro-choice crowd argue for choice without shitting all over the lives of people with Ds?[/quote]

This is ridiculous.  I don't know if you are the OP, but the OP STARTED THE ARGUMENT but shitting all over people who decided to terminate pregnancies.  YOUR CHOICE to continue a pregnancy like this is grand great wonderful and YOUR BUSINESS.  No one here is judging you for doing that, but you are judging others for their choices.  So then you don't get to throw your hands up when people disagree.

I terminated a pregnancy due to T21, I have complicated chronic health issues of my own that played into the decision.  Do I feel terrible, guilty, and heartbroken every single day?  YES.  Am I in disbelief of what happened because it is so horrid?  YES.  Is that what you want to hear?

But then, How sure am I that I made the right decision?  The one that would most likely save my body for more time (lifting heavy weight and certain physical movement actually destroys my spinal cord) and allow myself to continue to be a mother of our one other child, and assist in providing financially for our family, instead of becoming completely disabled at a young age (instead of just middle age) and causing major hardship on all of our lives?  I am 100% sure that we made the right decision.

This duality of thought is surprising, and incredibly difficult to understand if you haven't been through it yourself.  And, according to the shrink I started to see, this is the conflict that almost every single person she has seen (many) in this situation goes through.

People who live with DS or are caregiver's of them are completely wonderful.  But there is nothing you can say that will convince me that it is like raising a NT child.  Our visit to Children's to discuss the realities of the situation confirmed this for us anyway.
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So did you terminate because you have health problems, or because the baby had Down syndrome? Would you have terminated if the baby didn't have Ds? (was this about the T21, or about your health).

At any rate I don't know what the docs at Children's told you. I can't contradict it, obviously. I can only say that in my life I have come into contact with many many families with children with Ds because I have a sibling with Ds and their children have been more like other kids than not, and have brought a lot to their families and society. Most kids with Ds are now mainstreamed in inclusive classrooms. My DD right now has a little boy with Ds in her class. He gets therapies, yes. But he is also a little boy...talks, runs, plays with the other kids, understands everything going on around him, has a personality, is a PERSON. A real fucking PERSON, not a syndrome.

And he's an easier kid than my niece with autism. Having a kid is a big fat risky risk. You never know who your kid will be and what problems they might have.  [/quote]

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