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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]3 years with what? 4 trips a year? These are t relationships. They are booty calls when he’s in town.

You can’t think of this in terms of a normal relationship when they see each other everyday or multiple times a week.

It was scant. He had his cake and ate it too.

This is so common it’s not even that interesting. 50% of middle aged men have cheated. To them, it’s not love for gods sakes which is why crazy is trying to blow up his life.[/b]

This post must have been written by a cheater or a cheated-on spouse contorting themselves like crazy to excuse this kind of cheating, where the cheater and AP see each other as booty calls on work trips etc.

What this PP does not want to see is that those "four trips a year, three years, booty calls" that are "not love" actually are just as damaging and cruel , in their own way, as whatever PP considers a "relationship." Why? Because the cheaters have to plan, plot, deal with logistics of who will be where and when. They arrange travel and even their work schedule around the AP. It's different from an affair with the regular, nearby neighbor or "in our social circle" friend, yes, but it's just as awful. Only in a different way.

This PP is working hard to dismiss cheating on business trips as merely sex, not a relationship, not love. Doesn't matter. It's still cheating.

And saying "this is so common" and tossing out supposed statistics does not make those things true. 
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Agree. That person just wants to believe that a cheating spouse can't have a relationship with someone else just because they don't see each other often. I guarantee they talk often. There are plenty people in long distance relationships that talk every day, Facetime, have phone/text sex. It is possible (and likely in a lot of cases) that cheating spouses have relationships with their APs. These APs know plenty about the cheater's life including things about the betrayed spouse, children, work. Her husband clearly cheated with someone he knows well. This isn't the run of the mill one-off romp at a local hotel. [/quote]

DP. I don’t see the difference between a one-off romp and a full-blown affair. Both are cheating, both are betrayals, both are hurtful, I would not forgive either. [/quote]

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