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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m female in my late 40s and make $500k.  My kids are taken care of and their father makes just under $1M.

I get what you’re looking for—someone who can keep up with you financially and culturally.  It’s expensive to travel to Europe for 2 weeks in summer, spend 2 weeks skiing in the winter, and have a few long weekends.  You’re future partner needs to be able to pay their own way.  People on DCUM are so quick to tell women who want a more extravagant lifestyle to get their own money.  Well, you have your own money.  I don’t see why what you’re looking for is unreasonable.  However, in the DC area it’s probably not realistic.  You need to look in NY or Silicon Valley.[/quote]

Vomit. And yes, you are right. Those men are not in DC. Which is why I told a family member to leave 20 years ago...and he did and now very wealthy.[/quote]

What is there to vomit about?[/quote]

You live in an unrealistic bubble about what matters. It is especially disgusting since you have money and waste it on “lifestyle” and BS appearances.[/quote]

Sorry.  Money does matter.  It's all well and good to be idealistic that love conquers all.  And then reality creeps in and life is expensive.  How many people on DCUM outsource everything that they can?  That's not trivial money.  If OP wants to travel then that's what's important to her.  You many consider it a waste on "lifestyle" but at 40 with a grown child, what do you think she should be doing?  Her kid is off to college, she has her retirement money already.  I have no idea what sort of non wasteful lifestyle expenses you think she should be spending her money on.[/quote]

Investing it. Not spending 40k a year on travel and 15k on country club memberships. It is vapid.[/quote]

It’s my choice to spend today as much as I want after maxing my retirement accounts. I have business big enough where I am not interested in growing it while I am single. It’s too much for me already to manage. Single people are more at risk not having anyone to look after them in retirement thus I want to enjoy my life while I an relatively young. 40k on travel is not whole lot: it’s 2 trips a year as one of the above posters said. One skiing one to Europe or a beach.
If I remarry abd have a partner who’s in same business then I would grow it. [/quote]

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