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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's interesting how we now make up what abuse is.[/quote]

Says the child beating ahole.[/quote]

I mean I don’t do that. But tapping a child on the bottom is not abuse. [/quote]

Tapping a child on the bottom or slapping the hand is not spanking or beating.[/quote]

So if your husband did that to you, it would be ok, right? [/quote]

How is a husband the equivalent of a small child? [/quote]

They are a human being, they are part of your family, they deserve to be treated with respect and kindness. [/quote]

And they are. But tapping a toddlers butt is not abuse. Tapping there hand is not abuse. [/quote]

“Tapping” is just a wishy washy way of saying “hit”. Yes, hitting is always abuse.

How did I ever get my kid to behave without “tapping” his butt? Is my kid special? Am I a parenting savant? Why do parents who abuse their children always claim that there was no other way yet I personally know countless families with normal kids who never had to hit them?[/quote]

There are countless families I know with normal kids that were tapped a few times? Like abuse is not tapping on the butt a couple times in childhood. This really takes away from REAL abuse that people experience. You can call it that but you know tapping a butt which people do in sports and other things is not a form of abuse. Good day.[/quote]

People are individuals who experience the world through their own lens. For some, tapping is no big deal. My mother tapped me and I found it funny. Her hand was soft and gentle. I learned nothing from it, other than it was preferable to my dad, who beat me with a belt and verbally humiliated me. Whether you admit it or not, being touched (tap, slap, spank, beating) in the name of punishment is HUMILIATING. If that is your goal, to humiliate your child, who you brought in this world, have at it. Just don't expect them to respect, honor or care for you in your golden years. Or, prepare yourself to experience the fruits of your punishments while they tend to you in your vulnerable state of advanced age or poor health. You will be vulnerable one day, hopefully your caregivers are kinder and more patient than you were with your children.[/quote]

I was spanked but I am caring for my elderly parents because I love them. These general statements are crazy. And I don't even spank my kids.[/quote]

There is always an exception. There is a reason why you don’t hit your own kids and I am pretty sure it’s not because you had such a great experience yourself.[/quote]

No it's not. My experience was fine. I don't spank my kids mainly b/c of what society thinks. It's sad but true. [/quote]

But if spanking is not necessary in order to raise children then why would it not be abusive when some parents hit their kids unnecessarily? You can’t have it both ways.[/quote]

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